Wednesday, June 13, 2012

Formula for Success

Do you have what it takes to get what you want?

The winners in life know the rules of the game and have a plan. Whether you want to begin a new career, shed pounds or find the love of your life, consider these characteristics which Dr. Phil says are common to people who succeed:


Have a vision.

Champions get what they want because they know what they want. They have a vision that keeps them motivated and efficiently on track. They see it, feel it, and experience it in their minds and hearts. What is success for you? You won't get there without knowing what it feels and looks like.

Make a strategy.

People who consistently win have a clear and thoughtful strategy. They know what they need to do and when they need to do it. They write it down so they stay on course and avoid any alternative that does not get them closer to the finish line.

Find a passion.

Are you excited to get up in the morning? People with a passion are, and they're energized about what they are doing. You need to live and breathe what it is that you want, and be passionately invested in both the journey and the goal.

Live the truth.

People who consistently win have no room in their lives for denial, fantasy or fiction. They are self-critical rather than self-deluding, and they hold themselves to high but realistic standards. They deal with the truth, since they recognize that nothing else will make their vision obtainable.

Be flexible.

Life is not a success-only journey. Even the best-laid plans sometimes must be altered and changed. Be open to input and consider any potentially viable alternative. Be willing to be wrong and be willing to start over.

Take risks.

People who consistently win are willing to get out of their comfort zone and try new things. Be willing to plunge into the unknown if necessary, and leave behind the safe, unchallenging, and familiar existence in order to have more.

Create a strong nucleus.

Surround yourself with a group of people who want you to succeed. They will move with you toward your goal. Choose and bond with people who have skills, talents and abilities that you do not. Winners give and receive by being part of other people's nuclear groups.

Take action.

Do it! People who succeed don't just sit and think about what they want to do. They take meaningful, purposeful, directional action consistently and persistently. Every step they take puts them toward the outcome they're looking for.

Set priorities.

People who are consistent winners manage their challenges in hierarchical fashion. They commit to managing their time in such a way that does not allow them to keep grinding along on priority number two or three if priority number one needs their attention.

Take care of yourself.

People who consistently win are consciously committed to self-management. They are the most important resource they have in achieving their goals. They actively manage their mental, physical, emotional and spiritual health. 

from: dr.phil.com

Letting Go of Love

(from: http://www.drphil.com/)

Have you been dumped, betrayed or left so heartbroken that you didn't ever want to love again? Are you still stuck on an ex and don't know how to move on? And how do you know when it's time to let go and look for love somewhere else? 



  • If you're "the other woman" who's waiting for a man to leave his lover, don't waste your time. "If he'll do it with you, he'll do it to you," Dr. Phil says. The man you want lacks integrity and can't make a commitment. 
  • Does he really even make you happy? Be honest with yourself about the extent to which he's really meeting your needs. Chances are you're longing for the relationship that you wish it could be, and that you want to be in love with the person you wish he was. Dr. Phil reminds a guest: "There are times when you break up with somebody and you start missing them and you start thinking about all the good things. And then you're back with them for about 10 minutes and you go 'Oh yeah! Now I remember why I hate you!'" Don't kid yourself about what it was really like or glorify the past.  
  • Don't wait around because you think he's going to change. The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior, so the chance that he's going to ride in on his white horse and do the right thing is pretty slim. Dr. Phil explains, "To the extent that there's some history, you don't have to speculate, you just have to measure."
  • Don't put your life on hold. Every minute you spend focusing on your ex is a minute that's holding you back from a better future. Dr. Phil tells his guest, "As long you are obsessed on this guy, you will never put your heart, soul and mind into getting your life in order and starting another relationship if you want one." Set some goals and start putting your life back together.
  • Ask yourself: Are you hiding in the relationship so you don't have to face the reality of being on your own? Don't stay with someone because it's comfortable and safe. It may seem more secure, but it's not healthy for you and it certainly won't help you get to a better place. Why would you want to settle and waste your life away just to avoid getting back in the game?
  • Be clear with him. "You've got to say not just 'no,' but 'hell no,'" Dr. Phil tells his guest. "'Get out of my life. Stay away from me. Don't call me.'" If you live together, it's time to move out, or you may need to change your phone number. Dr. Phil reiterates: "Do what you have to do." If the circumstances are more complicated or severe, you may need to get a lawyer in order to get child support or to hold him accountable for any other outstanding issues.
  • Listen to what he's saying. If he's telling you that you want different things out of life and there's no way you can work as a couple, don't turn his words around into what you want to hear. He's being quite clear.
Move on and be strong, Girls :)

End of the Road - Boys II Men

Girl you know we belong together
I don't have time for you to be playing with my heart like this
You'll be mine forever baby
You just wait

We belong together

And you know that I am right
Why do you play with my heart?
Why do you play with my mind?

Said we'd be forever

Said it'd never die
How could you love me and leave me and never
Say goodbye?

When I can't sleep at night

Without holding you tight
Girl, each time I try I just break down and cry
Pain in my head
Oh, I'd rather be dead
Spinning around and around

[Chorus]

Although we've come
To the end of the road
Still I can't let go
It's unnatural
You belong to me
I belong to you

Girl, I know you really love me

You just don't realize
You've never been there before
It's only
Your first time

Maybe I'll forgive you

Maybe you'll try
We should be happy together forever
You and I

Will you love me again

Like you loved me before
This time I want you to love me much more
This time instead
Just come to my bed
And baby just don't let me go

[Chorus]


Girl, I'm here for you

All those times at night
When you just hurt me
And just ran out with that other fella
Baby I knew about it
I just didn't care
You just don't understand how much I love
Do you?
I'm here for you

I'm not about to go out on cheat you

(Maybe I'll forgive you)
Just like you did
But baby that's alright
I love you anyway
(Maybe you will try)
And I'm still going to be here for you until my dying day
(We should be happy together forever)
Right now
I'm just in so much pain
'Cause you just won't come back to me
(You and I)
Will you?
Just come back to me

(Lonely)

Yes baby, my heart is lonely
(Lonely)
My heart hurts baby
(Lonely)
Yes, I feel pain too
Baby please

This time instead just come to my bed

And baby just don't let me go

A Little Thing Called Love

(movie review)

Directed by Putthiphong Promsakha na Sakon Nakhon, Wasin Pokpong
Produced by Somsak Tejcharattanaprasert, Panya Nirankol
Written by Putthiphong Promsakha na Sakon Nakhon, Wasin Pokpong

Main cast
  • Pimchanok Luevisadpaibul as Nam
  • Mario Maurer as Shone
Supporting cast
  • Sudarat Budtporm as Teacher Inn
  • Tangi namonto as Teacher Phol
  • Pijitra Siriwerapan as Teacher Orn
  • Acharanat Ariyaritwikol as Top
  • Kachamat Pormsaka Na-Sakonnakorn as Pin
  • Yanika Thongprayoon as Faye

Country Thailand

Language Thai


Synopsis

Nam lives with her sister and mother. She is Shone's junior and secretly loves him. Nam and her friends help her confess her love with the help of the book '9 recipes of love'. Meanwhile teacher Inn and teacher Orn are constantly competing with each other for the sport teacher. Nam plays snow white in the school drama, Snow white. Shone's childhood friend Top joins the school. He has an instant liking for her.Some days later Top confesses his love to Nam. She is shocked and does not answer. Next morning Top asks her to go to the football match to see Shone Play. She agrees to that idea. On an outing Shone finally confesses indirectly that he loves her, but is interrupted by Top. At the birthday night party of Ake, Top and Shone share their story and say that they promise never to fall in love with the same girl. During a dance Top kisses Nam's cheek. That night Nam breaks up with him. Three years has passed by since the beginning of her story. Nam secures the first position in her exam. She would leave for USA to be with her dad. On the closing of the school year, she finally confesses to Shone. But is heart broken when she sees that Pin and Shone are together. That night Shone leaves his diary in front of her house. That diary contained all of Nam's photos. He always loved her but their time never matched. Shone leaves for Bangkok.
Nine years later, Nam is a successful costume designer and Shone has changed his profession to be a pro-photographer. In a reality show Nam and Shone are reunited.